TV Weddings – Friends – Ross and Emily

There are so many weddings on Friends, it was hard to choose just one. Chandler and Monica’s wedding might be the obvious choice, and Phoebe and Mike’s wedding is also memorable, but I just had to go with one of Ross’s many failed marriages.

The couple: Ross Geller and Emily Waltham. After Ross’s disastrous marriage to his ex-wife Susan (now out of the closet), he hopes to move forward with his life by marrying Emily.

Ross and Emily and their eerie, crypt-like ceremony site

The premise: Doomed wedding combined with classic sitcom vacation episode. Rachel suddenly realizes she can’t let Ross marry another woman, and their friends have hilarious clichéd adventures in Jolly Old England. Monica and Chandler sleep together for the first time.

The inevitable sequence of mishaps: The wedding ceremony location gets torn down, squabbles ensue and Emily wants to cancel the wedding. After some discussion, Emily agrees to hold the wedding in the partially destroyed building anyway, which makes the whole thing look like a funeral service held during the Blitz, but to each her own. Emily’s parents try to get Ross’s parents to pay for home renovations by calling them wedding expenses, and Ross has to broker a contract between them. Meanwhile! Rachel realizes that she loves Ross and hops on a plane to try to catch him before the wedding begins. She arrives in time, but decides to let the wedding go forward without saying anything. Everything looks like it’ll work out until they get to the vows, where instead of Emily’s name, Ross says “I, Ross, take thee Rachel.” The minister asks whether he should continue, and – cliffhanger!

The clichés: We actually get double the clichés thanks to the potent wedding/vacation special combo. Sequence of wedding vendor catastrophes (changed menu, missing cellist), acceptance of alternate wedding plan, fighting amongst the in-laws, groomsmen hooks up with bridesmaid, things go awry at the last possible moment. Absurd tourism, homesickness, wacky guest stars, mockery of foreign customs, vacation hook-up.

The special guests: Richard Branson as a street vendor! Hugh Laurie as the annoyed guy on Rachel’s flight! Plus, a completely awesome Jennifer Saunders as Emily’s mother.

The first dance song: Alas, it never got that far.

The bridesmaid dresses: Things could be much worse.

And in the end….: Obviously, this marriage was not to be. Although Ross and Emily are technically married at the end, the marriage is swiftly annulled and Ross’s divorce count rises.

The verdict: While the wedding itself may not have ended well, this episode is probably most important for being the inciting force behind Chandler and Monica’s relationship, which later leads to one of the other major Friends weddings. Even if you didn’t know that Ross and Emily’s marriage would be doomed, the basic set-up of this episode (another typical two-parter) should have been enough to tip you off. The focus is clearly not on the wedding or the couple – stitching the wedding episode together with a vacation episode is already enough of a distraction from what should have been the main event. By the time you see Chandler and Monica sleep together, it’s clear that this wedding is going to be a sideshow for other relationships (Ross and Rachel, Chandler and Monica) rather than an end in itself.